Seven Tips For Dealing With Confrontation

A lot of people cannot handle confrontation and start to shake, they lose control of their voice pitch, and they want to hit out and cannot control their thoughts properly. It can be frustrating when someone is putting us down and you can't argue back as you have got a touch of confrontation jitters. This is the `flight or fight' syndrome kicking in and it pumps adrenaline throughout your body in readiness to kick someone's arse or in readiness to run away from someone you think might kick your arse. It is your body getting prepared.

Here are 7 tips to deal with confrontation:

1.        Take a deep breath just before the confrontation or during it, if necessary. This lowers your heartbeat and blood pressure.

2.       Breathe a little slower, again this lowers your heartbeat and lowers the amount of adrenaline running through your body.

3.       Take 5 minutes, if you can, and quickly rehearse what you are going to say to someone. Make key points of your argument.

4.       Get to know what triggers your anger and prepare a new response to that trigger. By doing this you are aware of the buttons people can push to elicit a certain response - When you know your own triggers it less likely that someone can push the buttons as you are prepared.

5.       Make the person aware of how confrontational they are being - Saying something like `why are you shouting at me?', `Why are you being so aggressive'. This turns the energy back on the person and lets them look at themselves for a minute, this might calm them down as a lot of people get lost in the moment and don't realise they are being aggressive.

6.       Another way is to turn all the attention back on the person you are arguing with. `You seem really angry about that!'; `You look as if you're really pissed off?' Again this can have the same affect of point 5.

7.       Don't get sucked into their arguments. The purpose of an argument is to manipulate you into losing the argument thereby showing the other person they have won and they are superior. If you don't get sucked in there is no argument to win, and you come out looking the better person.

If all else fails, the nose is a good place to hit first which can temporarily blind them with tears.

(Written by: Steven Aitchison)

Contributed by: harinag49 @ yahoo.co.in

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